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Woman and Love

(Sorry, I m too busy for previous weeks, so I need some time to post my second issue on Apostasy. I had finished both last passages, just unfortunately not changing the format into my computer. And thanks for all comments.)


Love story is a very tremendous story. Story that delighted people. That makes heart beating and makes eyes shining. Love story is a story that every ears want to hear and every heart want to feel. Love story is a fairytale for every human.

Love story starts when someone (a man or a woman) falls in love with his/her another gender. Love story continues when both genders try all their best to keep the feeling. And love story ends with wedding or marriage.

That is what we call as traditional love. Type of love that we want and hope will be. Love that is very simple yet keeps pounding our hearts and remains in our memory. Love which the hero is the boy whiles the heroine is the girl. Whoever comes between them is the bad guy. There are always tears, there are always pities, but in the end just the happiness remains.

Unfortunately, today’s love is no more that simple. Even what is defined as ‘love’ is no more can be understood properly. Lives nowadays are just too complex. And with the complexities of lives, loves also get more complex. Nowadays, even man can love man (in the same definition as man-woman love). Woman also may loves woman. No exception. You can love anything and everything in the same type of love which we just give to our opposite gender in the past.



I am just trying to understand what ‘love’ is. What people meant when they said that they are trying to make love. Is love something that you must feel? Something that came to your heart first and then you sense? Is love is something that sacred? Is love can be a motivator or it is just a portion of sins that killing human?

For most of my friend, even my seniors and my lecturers, they knew that I m very good with my opposite gender. I make friends with most of them and many are my good friends. But what came in most of my male (and some female) a friend is I m making friend with girls to flirt with them, or in more humanist word: to make love with them.

Is it true that man is just destined to marry woman? Can’t they just be friend? Is it true that when man meets woman, the undefined feeling is there and they are just fooling themselves when they say that they are not in love?

One of my very best friends today is a girl. We met frequently, changing our ideas and keep talking about many things. Is it true that what I m doing is just I have a chemistry with her and I m going to marry her?



I just don’t know. But I think not. For me, woman and man are same but not identical. I know that meeting woman with a feeling to make sins is sinful but meeting a woman to change of ideas is part of education. I never am alone with her.

For me, woman is not man’s thing. She isn’t man’s property. She is free. Though woman is reason of why man enters Nar Al-Jahannam, but still man also reason why woman enters it too. Man and woman see things from different perspectives, so when they change ideas, things get clearer and better.

Yet people are not same. Same style may lead to different results for variable of people. Not many man find suitable woman to make her as his friend, but most to make her his spouse.


I need to remember this. For this, many girls that once a time good with me do not even want to show her face anymore. As they misinterpreted me as their ‘destiny’ while I am just want them to help me showing a way.